Everybody’s broke and scared…or are they?
Is it just me, or do we all have our friends categorized? I talk to all my friends. We have conversations about many different things. The thing is, I don’t talk to all of them about all of the things.
Some friends I talk to about work. Others, I talk to about life. Then there are my very close friends who I talk to about sex and personal struggles and fears, hopes & dreams.
I realized recently that I felt alone in one area of my life. As I rummaged through my mental rolodex of confidants it dawned on me that I don’t talk to any of my friends about money. Not honestly anyway. You know, we talk about whether or not our employers match our 401(k) contributions and the ongoing issues associated with the costs of healthcare and how we wish we were independently wealthy, but for real for real – we just don’t have honest and open conversations about money.
WHY THE HELL NOT?
Women and Money
Why don’t we talk about money? It puzzled me and began asking myself the question. Why is it that I don’t talk openly about money? The answer is simple. It’s the same as most things we hide. There some level of shame associated with it. We feel we should be better with our money, or we should have more money, or we assume that our friends and/or associates have more than we do.
It’s an Instagram syndrome come to life to haunt us. SAD and we gotta stop it ladies!
The truth is that we need to have the open and honest conversations about money. Why? Because when we share and are honest, we learn. We eliminate guesses and assumptions and replace that uselessness with real information that’s likely beneficial.
At the end of the day, if your friend has more than you – WHO CARES? Especially if it’s a real friend. That friend will not and should not allow that small fact to make you feel any kinda way. The truth is that who has more doesn’t matter. But imagine if your friend did find out that you have questions or that you could be doing better. There reaction will probably be to fill you in so that you can do your best financially.
The reverse is also true. If you are in the position to help a friend by opening that door to better finances, wouldn’t you do it? Of course you would. We’ve got to start having these conversations so that we can get ourselves on the path to our best financial lives. Sharing information, asking questions and being open and honest in a safe and trustworthy environment will ALWAYS leads to a better end.
Don’t you think so? Would you be willing to open up about your own personal financial situation if you knew it was safe to do so and that you would be helped or help someone else in the process? Or do you think money matters are private and should be kept that way?
Leave a comment and let me know.