The lack of love for relaxed hair products is annoying. Let’s talk about this y’all.
Over the past couple days, I’ve seen several blog posts and social media blasts about Gabrielle Union’s upcoming hair product line called Flawless by Gabrielle Union. I was super intrigued and I checked out the site. I had some thoughts.
In this post, I’ll tell you what I know about it and what I think about it. I wanted to write this because I feel some type of way. Not for the typical hater reasons you may be expecting, but for other reasons that are genuine concerns of mine. There seems to be no love for relaxed haired women out here in these short hair streets. I don’t get it.
The Lack of Love For Relaxed Hair Products
I feel a certain way about relaxed versus natural hair. The very nature of the comparison is part of what I don’t like. Why does it have to be a competition or an adversarial relationship? Why isn’t it just a choice about how you wear your hair? EQUAL choice. Not a choice that is looked down upon by those who made a different choice. It’s stupid.
It’s hair y’all. It ain’t that serious. We’ve all encountered the natural hair Nazi’s who jump on you like static cling cause you perm your hair. I always roll my eyes at them, because I’ve worn my hair natural for almost as long as I’ve worn it relaxed. So, yeah. Girl, bye. I don’t hate myself, I just like the slay the shit outta this here pixie I’m rocking.
Then you have the women who are relaxed and act like they can’t appreciate or compliment the beauty of natural hair and natural hairstyles. Natural hair goes hard. It looks amazing and it’s as beautiful and appropriate a choice as any other hairstyle. It’s all good.
When I first heard the stirrings about Gabrielle Union creating a hair product line I thought, ‘Oh.’ I’ve never particularly associated her with hair in my head. But, I also don’t have any negative feelings about her and hair. I thought, this may turn out to be something positive.
I hoped online and went over to the site. It’s not fully functioning yet, as the line officially launches in March. But, there are product pictures and a brief description of the line and where it will be sold. I was excited to see Ulta listed. Anytime we can diversity the aisles of Ulta, I’m with that. That’s a whole other post I’ll get to later.
But as I read I was also wondering, why is everyone seemingly jumping onto this natural hair bandwagon? For one, natural hair and its resurgence is kinda old now. I went natural in 2008 and relaxed again in 2013.
When I saw brands on the shelves that were and had always been indie and devoted to natural hair, I was hella pumped and excited. To see us be able to walk into a mainstream store and buy products for our hair and our daughter’s hair was so … right.
Then I saw the larger brands doing what they do. Changing their packaging to boast ‘natural’ this or ‘natural’ that. I knew that was some BS just as it’s BS that every brand under the damn sun now is ‘gluten free’ – whatevs.
When I first stopped relaxing my hair, I had a friend tell me, “…but it looks so nappy!” Fast forward 4 years and that heffa is over here bragging about being natural. It is what it is.
The thing that is irritating me is that now these celebs are all “Oh I wear my natural hair under my weave. I want women to love their natural hair. I want to help women care for their natural hair.”
Where were y’all 5 years ago when you wouldn’t have been caught dead with anything but 26 inches. We may have been able to spy you in a set of straight back braids while you were on vacation. And even then, your edges would have been so slicked and ‘baby haired’ up that we wouldn’t know you were black, so yeah, miss me with the new found deep love of self antics.
If YaYa came out with a natural hair line, I’m all over that. That woman has been wearing her hair natural and OUTSIDE so we could see it natural, since she came on the scene, slaying hoes.
The rest of y’all been doing what you do, which is whatever mainstream tells you is hot at the moment. Whether that be weaves or now this embracing natural hair under your weaves.
I ain’t buying it. If Janelle Monae or YaYa ain’t making it, I don’t believe it. I even believe Taraji been natural under there all this time. But, she’s just authentic so I’d believe her. Know what I mean?
Now, if it’s just a business venture, then say that. Get a spokes model, sell me some curl cream and it’s all good. But don’t try and bamboozle me with the foolishness. It’s not cool.
I’m starting to feel like natural hair is becoming the new size 14. Hear me out. When I’m in a store and I can’t find any sizes other than 12 and up, it’s frustrating. Not everyone is thick. Can we have a range, please? Can we include the larger sizes, but keep the smaller ones on the racks as well? Can we all just get along? Why do we have to include by excluding?
Same way I feel about relaxed versus natural hair. Why we gotta now act like ain’t nobody making products for the relaxed women? Y’all know there are still a whole slew of women who are out here not wearing 30 inches, not wear their hair in its curly state and not trying to be stuck with only shopping for hair products at the raggedy ass beauty supply store in the middle of the hood.
I go there, and I buy my stuff, so don’t misunderstand me. I’m just saying.
Anywho, I feel there’s no love for relaxed hair women out here and there could be. We ain’t going nowhere.
If you have relaxed hair, you’re in the right place. I got nothing but love for you. If your hair is short, then you know this is the place to be. I got you.
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